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July 19, 2012 at 11:52 am #1361
I know that today we use the term “stalking” pretty lightly. I always hear girls talk about how some guy is stalking them, when in my opinion, he is just showing interest in them and is not doing anything odd at all. In fact, before the stalking laws came out, his actions might even be considered romantic and sweet.
So what exactly determines the difference between stalking and someone just showing some interest in a person? I mean, there has to be some magic number, right? Like 3 phone calls a day is okay, but 4 is in the stalking zone or something like that. What exactly are the parameters that define stalking?
I only ask because I have someone who is creeping me out and I am starting to wonder what legal ground I have to stand on if I need to seek outside assistance. I am not really afraid that he is going to hurt me or anything at this point, but I am afraid it is heading in that direction and that I won’t be able to do anything about it at some point. I just want to know where I stand and if I am going to be able to get help when I need it.
I would also like to know what makes me such a magnet for people like this because I am not really even all that friendly and certainly am not stalk-worthy, but that’s a topic for another time and place. If you know anything about current stalker laws, can you please give me a heads up?
July 22, 2012 at 4:23 am #1362
Actually the definition of stalking can be quite broad and applied in a number of areas that might not be intuitively recognized. It also depends on your specific state or jurisdiction. Let me back up and start out this comment by saying that I am not a lawyer and none of this should be construed as legal advice. In fact, I would strongly recommend that if you are this worried about the situation, go talk to a lawyer or at the very least a police office and find out what your specific options are.
I do know that if you are receiving virtually any type of unwanted attention or interest you may be able to obtain peace or even a restraining order against that person. My understanding is that a peace order is pretty easy to get. The only real condition is that can at least reasonably prove that you are receiving unwanted attention and that the person accused is directly responsible. That should be enough (hopefully) to solve your problem. With a peace order, the person in question will generally be required to stay away from you and your person, your domicile (house or apartment) and will be prevented from emailing or calling or contacting you in any way. Now, sometimes these orders only last a certain amount of time, although they can usually be renewed (be sure to check).
I really hope that this helps. Either way, do something NOW, before it becomes a serious problem.